Ready to ask your BFF, “Will you be my maid of honor?” Here are 28 maid of honor proposal ideas to make the moment extra special.
There’s something so special about asking your bestie to be your maid of honor. It’s a moment you’ve been waiting for since your engagement—and now it’s arrived! From being your emotional rock to organizing your bachelorette party, there are various maid of honor (or matron!) duties they’re responsible for.
Not every wedding has a maid of honor. However, if you choose to include one, there are creative and meaningful ways to extend the invitation. Your MOH can be your best friend, sibling, or simply someone you’re close to. No matter who takes this important place, we’ve rounded up 28 unique maid of honor proposal ideas to ask, “Will you be my maid of honor?”
Read on for our all-time favorite MOH proposal ideas, from a custom piece of jewelry to a memorable experience.
28 Ways to ask, “Will you be my maid of honor?
As you think about how you'll pop the question, reflect on what makes your relationship truly special. Then, use that to inspire you. Here are our favorite maid of honor proposal ideas to get you started!
1. Send a proposal box
Nothing says, “Will you be my maid of honor?” better than a classic proposal box! Create a personalized one from scratch and fill it with a ton of goodies, from nail polish to face masks to a mini bottle of wine. Zola offers an adorable box topped with a rose foil heart and comes with dotted tissue paper.
Bridal Party Proposal Box
2. Give them jewelry
If your MOH loves jewelry, give them a gorgeous bauble as your maid of honor proposal gift. To make it even more sentimental, buy a piece—like earrings, a bracelet, a ring, or a necklace—that they can wear on your wedding day and beyond.
New York Gold Initial Pendant
3. Go to a special location
Your maid of honor proposal doesn’t have to be a gift. One creative idea is to take them to a location that’s meaningful to you both. You might choose your childhood home, the place where you first met, or somewhere you’ve shared memorable moments together.
Bride Squad Luggage Tag
4. Deliver flowers
Find out what kind of flowers they love and deliver them in a beautiful bouquet for a thoughtful maid of honor proposal idea. Attach a personalized note about why you value your relationship, and formally ask them to be your MOH.
5. Propose with a cake
If they have a sweet tooth, your MOH-to-be will appreciate a cake proposal. Make (or order) their favorite cake flavor and write in icing, “Will you be my maid of honor?” Imagine giving them one of those aesthetic vintage cakes trending on TikTok.
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6. Make a personalized wine bottle
Take them out to dinner. Then, present them with a custom wine bottle etched with a personal note asking them to be your maid of honor. The best part is that you can enjoy the wine while you discuss your future wedding plans.
Maid of Honor Etched Wine Bottle
7. Attend a painting class
Painting is not only the perfect activity to catch up with your future MOH, but it’s also incredibly therapeutic. While you're both painting, write the message on your artwork or prepare a separate canvas. Afterward, toast your maid of honor and the beautiful art you created together.
Wine Down Wednesday Painting Class
8. Write a heartfelt letter
Put your words to paper and pen in a thoughtful letter asking them to be your maid of honor. This is a traditional maid of honor proposal idea that won’t cost you anything. Yet it will leave a lasting impact after they read your sentimental proposal.
Tie the Knot Greeting Card
9. Have a spa day
Being a first-time maid of honor can be stressful. To help ease their nerves, pamper them with a spa day filled with mani/pedis, facials, and massages. Enjoy the day bonding together, then ask them to be your MOH when they’re the most relaxed.
10. Make a scrapbook
Gather your favorite memories together into a scrapbook that doubles as a keepsake. Collect pictures, mementos, or other decorative items to make it extra special. On the final page, reveal your maid of honor proposal to bookmark your next chapter.
11. Commission artwork
Have an artist recreate a beautiful moment in your relationship and turn it into a piece they can display in their home. Whether it’s a painting, illustration, or digital art, they’ll appreciate the thought behind this creative maid of honor proposal idea.
12. Take them to a football game
Turn an already fun sports outing into an unforgettable experience with your MOH proposal. For a grand announcement, ask to put the proposal on the jumbotron. Or, if they're more low-key, create T-shirts that say "maid of honor" on the back—or customize their sports ticket.
13. Customize a mug
For coffee or tea enthusiasts, surprise them with a custom “maid of honor” mug along with their favorite brew. Every time they use it, they’ll get a sweet reminder of their essential role as maid of honor on your special day.
14. Ask with a puzzle
A one-of-a-kind MOH proposal idea that we adore is a custom puzzle. Explore Etsy’s personalized puzzles, where you can upload a photo or commission an illustration to make it extra special. The best part is they’ll have a blast putting it together.
Will You Be My Bridesmaid Photo Proposal Gift Jigsaw Puzzle
15. Throw a dinner party
If they’re a sister or brother, throw them an intimate dinner party with a few family members and friends. Prepare their favorite foods and desserts, give them a present, or simply ask them to be your maid of honor. Celebrate afterward with a glass of bubbly and toast to your future.
Pop the Champagne 3.0 Gift Set
16. Attend a flower arranging class
What better way to ask your maid of honor than when you’re surrounded by gorgeous florals? Attending a flower arranging class is a fun activity you can do with your MOH—or with all your bridesmaids. Fill their stations with their favorite blooms, and wrap a personalized note around the flowers, asking them to be in your wedding.
17. Tour your wedding venue
Invite your potential maid of honor on a lunch date, followed by a surprise visit to your wedding venue. While you're touring the grounds, ask them to be your maid of honor! They’ll be so excited to discover where your wedding is taking place.
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18. Go on a picnic
For a social media-worthy maid of honor proposal idea to show off on Instagram, organize a super-cute picnic outdoors. Get a checkered blanket, a picnic basket filled with treats, and a bottle of champagne to make a picture-perfect moment.
Classic Wine And Cheese Picnic Basket
19. Gift a custom ornament
The holidays are the season of proposals for a reason—so why not ask your maid of honor during the festivities? We love the idea of gifting them a custom maid of honor ornament. That way, they can cherish the memory on their Christmas tree for years to come.
20. Give them a satin or silk robe
There’s nothing more luxurious than a satin or silk robe. Gift your MOH their wedding morning getting-ready outfit when you ask them to come on board. Tip: Choose one that’s a different color than your bridesmaids’ outfits so they can stand out.
Bridal Party Satin Lace Robe
21. Have a girls’ night
Like Barbie says, “Every night is girls night!” Invite your MOH and wedding party to a co*cktail bar or into the cozy comfort of your home. Dance the night away, and make sure to keep the drinks flowing. Ask your MOH and bridesmaids to join your squad, and then party all night!
Highbury Etched Whiskey Glasses
Expert Advice: Wondering how to ask your long distance bridesmaids to join your wedding? See our Virtual Bridesmaid Proposal Ideas.
22. Put a message in a bottle
If you're hosting beachside nuptials, ask your BFF in a way that's perfectly on theme: with a message in a bottle. Write your heartfelt message, roll it up, and secure it with twine. Then, place the note inside a glass bottle with sand and seashells. Send the bottle and wait for the exciting moment they receive it!
Personalized Message In A Bottle
23. Buy a scented candle
Help your future MOH make their space ultra-cozy with a celebratory champagne-scented candle. You can find adorable options with “maid of honor” written on the front. Some shops like Etsy may even let you add a short, sweet message for a personalized touch.
Spiced Pomegranate Soy Lotion Candle
24. Write it on clothing
Give your maid of honor a piece (or two or three) of custom MOH clothing they can proudly show off! Customize “maid of honor” on a comfy sweatshirt, a graphic tee, or any piece that fits their style. The best part is they can slip into it for your wedding morning or the after party.
Love U More Sweatshirt
25. Plan a getaway
Choose a destination that holds significance in your relationship. Maybe it’s your favorite vacation spot growing up or where you studied abroad together. During one of your excursions, ask them to be your MOH. They’ll appreciate the thought and effort behind this unique maid of honor proposal idea.
Tropical Palm Swimsuit
26. Go to a boozy brunch
Champagne and weddings go hand in hand, so why not go on a cute brunch date and sip on delicious mimosas? Coordinate with the venue and give them personalized champagne flutes to serve your drinks. That way, your MOH will be surprised when they receive their co*cktail order!
Monogrammed Stemless Champagne Flutes
27. Attend a cooking class
If your BFF is passionate about cooking, invite them to a cooking class. That way, you’ll learn how to make a gourmet dish from a professional chef. After making your tasty creation, ask them the big question. Enjoy the meal you cooked together, and chat about your future wedding plans.
Private Virtual Cooking Class For Two
28. Make a video
Compile photos and videos from your relationship and edit them into a heartwarming video. Add text about how much they mean to you, then create the final slide, “Will you be my maid of honor?” Surprise them with a link to the proposal or play it at a party surrounded by family and friends.
Record And Edit Your Creative Video
No matter where you are in your wedding planning, Zola has everything you need to create the day of your dreams. From super-specific topics like what to look for in a wedding vendor contract to crafting your wedding website (where you’ll conveniently be able to list your maid of honor and other attendants!), we’re here to help.
Maid of honor proposal FAQs
If you still have questions about maid of honor proposals, we’re here to help. Read on for our answers to your most-asked questions, from how to ask someone to be your MOH to some of the most popular gift ideas.
1. How do I ask someone to be my maid of honor?
You can ask your maid of honor by giving them a sentimental gift like jewelry or a wine bottle etched with the proposal. Or treat them to a fun experience, such as attending a painting class or spa day. You don’t have to spend an arm and a leg. Writing them a handwritten note is just as meaningful.
2. Who will be my maid of honor?
Who you choose to be your maid of honor is entirely up to you. Couples typically select one of their close friends, a sibling, or a family member—anyone they share a special connection with. There are no rules about who your maid of honor should be as long as you trust them to support you. And if you can’t choose, it’s ok to have two maids of honor.
3. What are some maid of honor proposal gifts?
Popular maid of honor proposal gifts include items that honor your relationship, such as personalized jewelry they can wear to your wedding festivities or a sentimental photo gift. Other options are a maid of honor proposal box filled with their favorite things, a celebratory champagne bottle, or a box of fancy chocolates. You also can’t go wrong with a gift that proudly displays their MOH title, such as a tumbler, tote bag, or cozy sweatshirt.
